Listen to wisdom and avoid being seduced. The Bible commands a godly husband to keep his wife sexually fulfilled. Very fulfilled.
Like this chapter of the Bible, our comments are sexually explicit
Turn your ear to my understanding. By listening to wise voices, we will not be listening to foolish voices.
that you may maintain discretion. If a man has a sexual affair, it is his own fault. He cannot blame the woman for his own actions.
Yet most men who are caught in an affair blame the woman. This is cowardly.
The Book of Proverbs often reveals a deeply negative view of women. That probably reflects a misogynistic personality on the part of the men who wrote the book. Read more »
honey. Honey was the sweetest substance in ancient Israel.
oil. Olive oil was the smoothest substance in ancient Israel.
wormwood. The Hebrew word is לענה (“la’anah”). It means “curse” in Hebrew.
Wormwood is mentioned seven times in the Old Testament. It always has the implication of bitterness.
Deuteronomy 29:18. lest there should be among you man, woman, family, or tribe whose heart turns away today from the LORD our God, to go to serve the gods of those nations; lest there should be among you a root that produces bitter poison;
Proverbs 5:4. but in the end she is as bitter as wormwood, and as sharp as a two-edged sword.
Jeremiah 9:15. Therefore the LORD of Hosts, the God of Israel, says, “Behold, I will feed them, even this people, with wormwood, and give them water of gall to drink.
Jeremiah 23:15. Therefore the LORD of Hosts says concerning the prophets: “Behold, I will feed them with wormwood, and make them drink the water of gall; for from the prophets of Jerusalem ungodliness has gone out into all the land.”
Lamentations 3:15. He has filled me with bitterness. He has stuffed me with wormwood.
Lamentations 3:19. Remember my affliction and my misery, the wormwood and the bitterness.
Amos 5:7. You who turn justice to wormwood, and cast down righteousness to the earth
The word “wormwood” is only mentioned once in the New Testament. It is used as the name of a great star:
Revelation 8:11. The name of the star is called “Wormwood.” One third of the waters became wormwood. Many people died from the waters, because they were made bitter.
VERSE 5. Her feet go down to death. Her steps lead straight to Sheol.
VERSE 6. She gives no thought to the way of life. Her ways are crooked, and she doesn’t know it.
VERSE 7. Now therefore, my sons, listen to me. Don’t depart from the words of my mouth.
Remove your way far from her. We are to avoid temptation.
VERSE 9. lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one;
VERSE 10. lest strangers feast on your wealth, and your labors enrich another man’s house.
VERSE 11. You will groan at your latter end, when your flesh and your body are consumed,
VERSE 12. and say, “How I have hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof;
VERSE 13. neither have I obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor turned my ear to those who instructed me!
VERSE 14. I have come to the brink of utter ruin, among the gathered assembly.”
Summary: The Bible commands a godly husband to keep his wife sexually fulfilled. Very fulfilled.
Drink water. Drinking water from “her well” is probably a reference to a husband giving his wife cunnilingus.
His drinking of that “water” is a normal part of their sexual lives together. It is not wrong or sinful.
For many Christian women, their sexual experience is unfulfilling. It consists almost solely of intercourse, and it almost never brings her to orgasm.
Her husband is “fulfilled,” but clearly she is not. For her, sex with her husband turns out to be a “duty” or obligation rather than the incredible experience God intends for her.
Her God-given hopes and dreams of a fulfilling sexual relationship are demolished. She is left without hope of fulfillment.
your own cistern. For a married couple, her sexual anatomy becomes his, and his sexual anatomy becomes hers.
However, she is not a sexual plaything for his gratification. Rather, their sexual encounters should be mutually beneficial.
your own well. The man is instructed to drink water only from “your own well.”
What is a well? It is a dark tunnel that goes deep into the earth and is a source of a prized substance.
Proverbs 9:17. Stolen water is sweet. Food eaten in secret is pleasant.
streams of water. Water is the valuable liquid that is drawn from a well.
This is probably a reference to the secretions a woman produces during sexual activity.
in the public squares. If a husband is derelict in his “manly duty” of giving his wife orgasms, she may become desperate and be tempted to seek them elsewhere.
Within marriage, the sexual needs of the wife cannot be disregarded.
for yourself alone. A biblically-based husband keeps his wife sexually fulfilled.
If he fulfills his “manly duty,” then she will be sexually fulfilled. She will not tempted to seek fulfillment with someone else.
not for strangers. Their shared sexual experiences of bringing her to orgasm will be a rich delight for both of them.
If he is faithful in his “manly duty: of keeping her sexually fulfilled, those incredible joys won’t be taken over by an outsider.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth. As he ages, a man needs to continually rejoice in his own wife. He needs to fulfill he “manly duty” to keep her sexually fulfilled.
And he needs to cultivate a love-relationship that keeps growing closer.
Otherwise, something like entropy will naturally occur, and they will grow apart.
VERSE 19. A loving doe and a graceful deer — let her breasts satisfy you at all times. Be captivated always with her love.
a graceful deer. A godly man sees the God-given gracefulness in his wife.
satisfy you at all times. A man finds his sexual appetite fulfilled, in the measure that he fulfills the sexual appetite of his wife.
Be captivated always with her love. The biblical man is intoxicated by his “manly duty” of giving his wife orgasms.
VERSE 20. For why should you, my son, be captivated with an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another?
captivated with an adulteress. The man will find his own sexual desires fulfilled the most when he brings his wife to her orgasm.
Were he to abandon her and have sex with another woman, his own experience would fall short.
VERSE 21. For the ways of man are before the LORD’s eyes. He examines all his paths.
VERSE 22. The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare him. The cords of his sin hold him firmly.
VERSE 23. He will die for lack of instruction. In the greatness of his folly, he will go astray.
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